You win Mr. Principal….

You win today Mr. Principal.  I cannot fight you anymore despite over half the class parents coming to you to complain about Teacher. Sad, sad day when that happens. But that’s ok. You made two families leave, that had already paid tuition for next year, and many more are leaving because of this year.

You made your choices and that’s ok. We made our choices too.
Oh, and all the teachers leaving? Yeah, that too. You have TWO teachers that have been there for three years, and one crappy teacher that has been there for ONE year.  But that’s ok, because they all are “trained professionals.”  Just one thing about that, just because a teacher has experience, doesn’t mean they are a good teacher and I think you know that.

You would have to be blind Mr. Principal to not know that there is not a problem.  But that’s ok too. I know GOD is in control and I know that GOD knows all the bits and pieces.  You don’t have to answer to me for your actions Mr. Principal, but you will have to answer to GOD.

I hope your next year is as good as you deserve, and I hope all the parents love your “experienced” teacher that had so many complaints this year!

Can a teacher be a bully?

Can a teacher be a bully?  Yes, I think a teacher can be a bully. I’ve seen it with my own eyes more than one time.

Can anything be done about a bully teacher?? Probably not, because, you know, they are a trained professional. A teacher.  No one would call  out a  teacher, would they??

What if the teacher needed to be called out? What then? No one would believe that a teacher was a bully would they??

I’m dealing with a bully teacher and I’ve found that when the teacher is called on something, she quits doing that specific thing. But, she continues to bully her students.

How sad is that? That a teacher has to bully her students??

God in my life………

The last few weeks I have seen God at work in my life today and in my past.

When I was in junior high school, I hung around with a group of about 8 people. Maybe a few more. We had fun being teenagers, smoking, trying new things, getting in trouble, just generally pushing limits.

At the beginning of ninth grade, I was a little wild. I got suspended from school THREE times right in a row. My parents and the school decided that I would be better off attending one of the other schools in the city. So, I transferred schools. I was the new kid at the school. A girl by the name of Sally was assigned to show me around. We became friends and I did very well at the new school. I toed the line, I did my school work and I made some friends.
Needless to say, this was just the thing I needed to straighten up and fly right. From then on I did very well in school and I didn’t see much of the old group of friends. Which turned out for the better for me.

Most all of that old group of friends went on to have issues with alcohol and or drugs. I was shocked to learn this just a few years ago. Most of that whole group, which turned out to be a bunch of people had or continue to have issues with one or the other or both.

Today, I can see with clarity that God just plucked me out of that situation and put me in a brand new situation to have a fresh start.

And today I am thankful for that provision from God. It was shocking at first to realize what had actually happened at that time in my life and how God provided a safe way for me out of the situation. I remain thankful to this day for that.

Revelations………

I’ve had several revelations about my boys school over the last few weeks. They have been eye opening to say the least.

*change

*struggles

*demonic attacks

I’ve realized, with a certain clarity, that I cannot change anyone but myself, my own attitude and my own ideas. I am trying to instill this into my boy as well.

My boy and I are not the only ones struggling this year.  There have been many changes at our school. Almost each year there have been new hires, a fired principal, a year of chaos with no leader, and a new principal. There have also been changes to the school building. A lot of changes requiring getting used to.

A friend suggested that this quite possibly was a demonic attack meant to tear the school apart. This was confirmed last week. There has been and continues to be much prayer regarding the school, students, teachers and families.

This was a HUGE eye opener to me and how I handle the teacher, principal and even my son. HUGE would actually be an understatement. I believe we our on the right path now and are able to stand firm against the enemy.

Ephesians 6:10-18

King James Version (KJV)

¹⁰ Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.

¹¹ Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

¹² For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

¹³ Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

¹⁴ Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;

¹⁵ And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

¹⁶ Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

¹⁷ And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:

¹⁸ Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

School Woes……..

Yes Dean Davis, we would love to speak to you about our son if it was only an issue of his behavior, but it is not. WHY can’t you see that you have an inept teacher teaching the children? How many parents complaining will it take you to actually DO something about Ms. Jones?

Early on you indicated that you would like us to communicate with Ms. Jones. That is great! We wanted open communication with you and her. Communication with her has proven to be ineffective.

You can clearly see that by her unwillingness to change one tiny aspect of her teaching. She continues to speak to the children in the third person. That shows her character. And more than one parent has complained about that issue too.

You will find that parents with children coming into her class will not stay at your school with her as a teacher. I see a drop off of enrollment at our school in the next years.

And if Ms.Jones stays at our school Dean Davis, I see her choosing a child from each class to pick on like she has done this year. You will have even more angry parents than you have this year. If it weren’t so traumatizing, we would have pulled our son out in October.

I mean, who in the world threatens 9/10 year old children? If you don’t do—-, you will not have recess?? What teacher does that??

But you go right ahead Dean Davis, and stand by your teacher, because we know that that is all you can do. And we all realize that we will never know what, if anything, you have done to remediate Ms. Jones.

My other question would be, CAN she be remediated? And do you want to keep her with all the issues that have popped up this year??

It was clear that Ms. Jones did not fit in with the other teachers from the very beginning of school. We can only hope you all realize this and do teh right thing.

Why would you………….

Why would you let someone that has known your child seven weeks decide that your child may have ADD/ADHD?

WHY would you let a doctor that is seeing your child for the very first time diagnose your child with one form of alphabet disorders or another?

I know of more than one aquaintance that has done exactly that! A doctor that doesn’t know your child can tell after a ten minute visit what the issue is?? No, they can’t, but they do.

My boys teacher thinks she knows what is wrong with my son after knowing him for exactly seven weeks??? I don’t think so. I brought him to a psychologist and so far there is no talk of a diagnosis for him.

This is a new teacher to the school, that doesn’t even know the children and she is making a diagnosis? Not with my son she isn’t. She is the type of teacher, that if she is allowed to stay at this small private school, will find a child to pick on in each of the coming classes.

The principal and administration have been made aware how awful this teacher is. We’ll see if she remains at the school.

Today, at this moment, we are not sure of what our future plans regarding this school will be. My boy may not return to the school next fall. I would like to pull him out and have him attend another private school but I know that can be traumatizing so we will not being following through with that option.

I can see………………….

I can see the looks of judgement from you. Don’t think I don’t see it because I do. You may smile to my face, but I see the silent judging from you, and you and you.

I’m not fooled. What you may not know is that I am doing my best and getting help for my boy. He is sweet and kind and loving. He is also naughty sometimes. We are getting help.

It’s a small school and everyone mostly knows everyone. It’s a smallish church too. Don’t think that I don’t know that you and some of the other families at church/school get together a couple times a month. That stings, because we are not invited.

Maybe it’s petty to feel slighted, but we do. I don’t want to feel not included. I want to be a part of it all too.

This is nothing new. I was never part of the cool kids at school either. It’s the same with work. It’s all a matter of who you know and where  you are.

I’ve really had a hard time dealing with this. It almost feels like rejection. It’s small and petty. It’s so cliquish. I thought I was over that………………….

Today I understand………

Today I understand why people leave a church and quit attending. I understand why people can be hurt by church people.

I am a Christian and I think Christians are big hypocrites. Myself included.

I would never turn my back on God and Jesus though. But I can understand why people don’t want to have anything to do with church.

Sometimes you need to let go

When I was 14, there was a girl at school that some of us picked on. Back when I was going to school, it wasn’t called bullying. But that’s really what it was.

There was a group of us that did not act very well.  We bullied this girl. She was a year older than us.

I am horrified to admit this because I am not a bully.

After this school year, I went to this same school just one more semester.  Then I transferred schools in 9th grade and I toed the line ever since. I didn’t move away from this group of people, we just never saw each other since we went to different schools.

Now that we are all grown up, I’ve often wondered what happened to this girl. I would see her once in a while because she worked in a bar that served great hamburgers and I would go there or get take out once in a while. I’ve since tried to locate her to apologize for my behavior toward her but I cannot locate her. I just want to say I am so sorry.

I was talking with a friend today and I shared this info with her. She told me that sometimes we do things in life that make us the person we are today. Ok, I can live with that.  But I said to her, it was at anothers expense.  Yes, it was, but that was the only time I ever treated someone badly like that.

And, I never hung around that group again. Which is probably good. Some of them developed serious drug, and drinking habits.  BUT, I’ve recently been in contact with some of them through face book.

I guess we learn in life and some people that bully continue to bully and some don’t. I am eternally grateful that I did not continue to bully.  One of the huge regrets in my life.  My friend said too, that sometimes we need to just forgive ourselves.  Maybe I need to do that now…..

College update

I guess I never updated about college.

I’ve taken three classes and I am registered for two more in the coming semester.

I have enjoyed all the classes I’ve taken and am learning. I’m actually having fun.

There was one class that I withdrew from because it was just not working out. I am excited to be back at school learning!!